Queer embodiment, rest and pleasure
For weeks now I’ve been trying to start writing. Social media posts. Blog posts. Anything. And then when I sit down, I notice that my brain starts going all over the place and I can’t seem to get a coherent thought out and on paper. Instead I get caught up in many other things that need doing. Focused on my own survival needs.
When survival needs are on the forefront of what needs attention, it’s hard to focus on other things. Even when you know they’re important.
“Queer embodiment, queer rest and queer pleasure are radical tools for the care of our bodies and our communities”
Ironically, this tension is at the heart of the struggle many of my clients are also facing. They are under stress and busy trying to survive. With their attention and energy directed towards survival, they often find themselves disconnected from themselves and their body. Rest and pleasure can feel frivolous or inaccessible.
When we lose access to being present in our bodies, to rest, and to pleasure we lose something critical for ourselves and our communities. This disconnection is harmful for our wellbeing. It keeps us from our resilience, our intuition and our wisdom. It limits our intimacy. It keeps us from being able to sustainably challenge systems of injustice.
I believe that queer embodiment, queer rest and queer pleasure are radical tools for the care of our bodies and our communities. They are necessary for our survival, our healing and our ability to thrive collectively. This is a key focus in my work through modalities such as sexological bodywork, yoga therapy and therapeutic bodywork such as Lomi Lomi massage and de-armouring. Each of these supports healing the relationship with our body, with pleasure, with rest and with each other.
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